Thursday, September 30, 2010

Will you grow old together?


In today's age for a couple to think of growing old together seems, sadly, a bit foreign. The rate at which divorces are taking place and couples separate, it is a difficult task. This was not so, only two three decades ago. The changing norms have taken a big toll on the relationships. How about you? Do you believe that you will grow together till old age?
The determination that we would not separate may play a big role. Once you have decided the goal - no separating, you will act towards achieving that goal. Please make this bond with your partner that you will not separate. I wish to add something here. When things are going smoothly, all such promises sound very good. As soon as a crack appears, the same looks very difficult. The need is to take care when the cracks appear.

Why do the cracks appear? Miscommunication, discords, different views on very important matters, career problems, health problems, third person entering the relationship, and many other factors can play role in this. As time passes, distances may grow. The reverse also happens. But now days it seems that the earlier case occurs more often.
Do you want to grow together till old age? Are you sure that your choice of partner is perfect for you? Is your partner also sure? Both of you have considered every factor? If there are any complaints, you are ready to sort them out? Do you keep the communication open? Do you love each other? What about caring? Please consider all these and draw a plan so that separation becomes a very difficult

1 comment:

  1. Hi Jay-ar--- one of your Bloggers friends here. I like your blog, and had to comment on this post....My husband and I were high school sweethearts, got married at 18 and had our first baby at 19. Needless to say, there wasn't anybody who thought we'd still be together almost 30 years, and three grown kids and three grandbabies later. Your point about making the commitment to make the relationship work is the most important, in my view. If you truly love each other, you can work through anything...you just have to see it as a minor setback and not a reason to walk away from each other....and we have been through all the up's and down's...but love each other enough to always want to be together. I think the reason so many people divorce nowadays is that they think it's easier to just start over with someone new, but then find out what they gave up.

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